Mixed Love

If you've ever dated someone outside your race, you might have encountered the snickers, the side comments, and the jokes about your relationship. Maybe someone even diagnosed you with yellow or jungle fever. These jokes reveal much about people's true feelings on interracial romance.

There are more interracial marriages now compared to past decades. But, it's not the preferred route. If look at ads or watch a commercial, you'll notice that these ads tend to consist of same-race couples or families.

Is it a more subtle and hidden form of racism? Instead of separating people by bathroom or drinking fountains, we separate them by who they should date. We categorize and confine people. If you're white, date white men; if you're Asian, date Asian men; if you're black....well, you get the point.

Even people in my generation have these archaic beliefs. My friends, though modern thinkers in many respects, are still conservative on this subject. They believe that one should date solely within one's race. As a minority, I can understand the logic. You don't want to lose touch with your roots. You want your children to appreciate your culture and background. You don't want to assimilate.

But, that's a personal choice. Just because you choose to date within your own culture, why should the rest of us? Is interracial love less genuine? Is it any less real?


In the end, it doesn't matter if a man ends up with a woman outside his race; he's still not with you. If not her, it would be some other woman. If he's unavailable to you regardless, it should make very little difference to your life. Move on.