Crush of the Week

JAY SEAN

As soon as his ripped body appeared in Lil' Wayne's "Down" music video, females across the country took notice. When he opened his mouth and proved to be a decent singer, Jay Sean made his mark on the music industry. And with his new song "Do You Remember," he's stealing hearts all over again.

Here are the reasons why he qualifies as crush of the week:

*He broke the stereotype of the nerdy Asian. As the first Asian R&B superstar, he proves that there is definitely some swagger potential hidden in the Orient.

*He has a British accent. Enough said.

*No indication of a one-hit-wonder. Sean was already a superstar in the United Kingdom and known world-wide before he came to the US. No worries, you can expect future baby-making tunes.

*Before he became an internationally-recognized artist, he pursued a career in medicine. Yeah, he's smart too. But, rather than settling for a job that simply pays the bills (well, more than pays the bills), he risked it all to pursue his dreams. Ability plus ambition: perfect combination.

Looks, brains, and a voice that makes your clothes tear themselves off....MMMM

Do It Like The Animals

Humans aren't the only ones to partake in some PDA.....

 

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Mixed Love

If you've ever dated someone outside your race, you might have encountered the snickers, the side comments, and the jokes about your relationship. Maybe someone even diagnosed you with yellow or jungle fever. These jokes reveal much about people's true feelings on interracial romance.

There are more interracial marriages now compared to past decades. But, it's not the preferred route. If look at ads or watch a commercial, you'll notice that these ads tend to consist of same-race couples or families.

Is it a more subtle and hidden form of racism? Instead of separating people by bathroom or drinking fountains, we separate them by who they should date. We categorize and confine people. If you're white, date white men; if you're Asian, date Asian men; if you're black....well, you get the point.

Even people in my generation have these archaic beliefs. My friends, though modern thinkers in many respects, are still conservative on this subject. They believe that one should date solely within one's race. As a minority, I can understand the logic. You don't want to lose touch with your roots. You want your children to appreciate your culture and background. You don't want to assimilate.

But, that's a personal choice. Just because you choose to date within your own culture, why should the rest of us? Is interracial love less genuine? Is it any less real?


In the end, it doesn't matter if a man ends up with a woman outside his race; he's still not with you. If not her, it would be some other woman. If he's unavailable to you regardless, it should make very little difference to your life. Move on.

5 Vodka Recipes

All these only require vodka and ingredients from your fridge. Add the portions as you desire. If you had a bad day, don't worry, no one will judge your heavy hand.


Fairytale:
Vodka, chocolate syrup, crushed strawberries, crushed ice.

Diva:
Vodka, passion fruit juice (or something tropical), lime juice, Maraschino cherry juice, 7-Up

Vodka Tonic:
Vodka, tonic water, and a slice of lime

Apple Pie Shot:
Vodka, apple cider, cinnamon sugar, and whipped cream

Vodka Punch:
Vodka and green Hawaiian punch


Have fun playing bartender.

gold digger

Gold digger: a term coined by society and usually designated for women that become involved with wealthy men for the purpose of  reaping the financial rewards. Basically, greedy girl goes for old man with money. But, in this modern age of gender equality, this term needs to extend to both sexes.

Last night, I met this boy--a very nice boy. We talked about relationships. We had a lengthy debate about which gender is more shallow. He asked if I ever dated a fat boy. I said no. I asked if he ever dated a pleasantly-plump girl. He said yes. He gave me a beaming smile to cement his victory. I asked if he actually cared about her.

He said, "I mean, she was cool." After a pause, he continued, "Well she gave me an iPod, so how could I say no?"

I accused him of being a gold digger and he vehemently protested asserting that only women could be gold diggers.

These days, gender roles fluctuate. You see more men staying home with the kids while women bring home the bacon. You see girls paying for the dates and wooing their male counterparts. So, it's just as possible for men to become involved with women for money. When it comes to survival, anything goes. People date one another for the wrong reasons all the time. If you can get your bills paid in the meantime, then by all means.

Old Spinster Advice

Every new college student gasps in horror at the idea of the freshman 15. Yes, it's true, you will gain some weight. Some of you will gain A LOT of weight. But, the weight can easily be shed. Hint: put down the vodka tonic, and go to the gym.

What cannot be shed is a bad reputation.

College is the land of experimentation, but it's not exactly the land of secrets. Most of the people on campus still have the mentality of a high school gossip junkie. So, remember that party where you made out with that guy whose name you can't remember? Well, he told his friends. Harmless at first because he's simply one face out of thousands. But, soon you will realize that even on a campus of 20,000, the world is VERY small. Every drunken mistake and every walk of shame was seen and mentally recorded by someone else...and then gossiped to someone else. I can't begin to describe how many girls I "know" about without having ever met them.

You don't want to be THAT girl. If JuicyCampus (RIP) showed us anything, it's that people feed off gossip. Evidently, one is never too for rumors.

Next time you go to a party and you see me in the corner shaking my head at you, it's not that I'm jealous. It's because I've been there. Not to mention, the boy that you're giving your number to had Chlamydia two years ago.

Commitment Phobics

Ever get the feeling that when a guy is trying to blow you off, he uses the ever-so-genius excuse that he has a fear of commitment? Maybe not in so many words. He may imply that he has trust issues (with a puppy dog look on his face), or he'll bring up an ex-girlfriend that completely obliterated his faith in women. Whatever the measures, he'll get you to feel sorry for him. Then you start having delusional fantasies of being the ONE girl who will heal his heart. In reality, you're just the 3 a.m. booty call. Genius.

I've always categorized these men into the asshole category and called it a day. But recently, I met someone who made me think twice. Commitment phobics: are they real?

This woman (let's call her Babs--simply because I like that name) has the biggest commitment issues of anyone I've met. The word whore might creep into your thoughts. But, rest assured, she is no ho-fo-sho. Babs is seeing someone; she has been for months. She truly cares for him. But, when the subject of relationship springs up, she has heart palpitations.

He tries to hold her hands in public, she pushes him away.
He says "I love you," she says "thank you."
He tells her he misses her, she says she needs a break.

Babs must belong to a different species because women are biologically programed to want babies and the white picket fence. But, she's not the only one of her "species." There are numerous articles, and even self-help books, on understanding commitment phobia.

Maybe commitment phobia isn't always an excuse used to get ass without putting a ring on it.